If you’ve wanted to make those kinds of changes for a while, you’re not alone. Most of us have at least one area where we would like to see some change.
We tend to ask ourselves questions like “Why can’t I lose this weight?” or “How often should I be going to the gym?” or “What should I be eating – or not eating?”
“Should” and “why can’t I” questions are rarely helpful.
Here’s a powerful question that can help us move the needle when it comes to changing things:
How much energy am I willing to put into getting what I want?
Stop a moment and allow yourself to give this some thought. Be sure to ask with a kind and sincere tone. If you have an accusatory or critical tone (like you should be willing to give it your all!) the question will be meaningless.
This is an important question to answer sincerely. Until we know this, we tend to set ourselves up for disappointment, expecting more than we can or will invest right now.
When we ask this question several important things happen:
1. You take “should” out of the mix
Should is a notoriously poor motivator. It’s pushy and usually leads to shame. Shame might push us into doing something for a while but never leads to lasting results.
2. You give yourself permission to be honest.
Knowing how much energy you’re willing to expend right now helps you make realistic plans.
If you realize you don’t have a lot of energy to spend (or even enough “want to”) you can adjust accordingly. This is a great time to pick the low hanging fruit – which leads to another good question:
What small step could I take right now?
Sometimes doing one new thing, even if it seems small, can jump-start a whole cascade of good things.
So, if you’ve been wanting to make changes in your exercise routine, your weight, or your cholesterol, try starting right here…
How much energy are you willing to put into getting what you want?