- You will need to eat less (and possibly better quality) fuel, permanently.
- This smaller amount of fuel will need to be satisfying to you or you won’t be able to sustain it.
- To consistently eat reasonably requires having a peaceful, balanced relationship with food, so you aren’t compelled to eat when you’re not hungry.
These three reality checks can help us come to grips with what it takes to reach and keep our goals.
Hint: HCG shots and Nutri-system will not cut it long term.
Here’s how this played out in my life: I didn’t gain the freshman 15. I gained the freshman 40, and I enjoyed getting there with reckless abandon…bottomless Dr. Pepper while studying, drive-thrus, stacks of Cowboy cookies from Safeway, Waffle House at 2 in the morning. The only problem was I hated my body, and food preoccupation was stealing my very life.
Fast forward 40 years. After three decades of brutal food-dysfunction, chronic dieting and body-hatred, I stumbled into recovery and now help others do the same; that’s a long story for another time.
Right now let’s take a closer look at how the three keys apply to a real life – mine:
1. To keep a comfortable weight I will need to eat less for the rest of my life – not just for the duration of a diet. I’m around 40 pounds lighter now and if I want to stay here I need to consistently live with the smaller amount of fuel my body needs to maintain this lighter weight.
This boils down to biology:
- Small bodies run on a smaller amount of food.
- Medium bodies run on a medium amount of food.
- Larger bodies run on a larger amount of food.
2. I had to find a way of eating I really like, one I could easily and happily continue. It’s gotta be a lifestyle, not a diet. Here’s the beautiful irony – I enjoy eating now more than I ever have. Savoring, appreciating, getting up from a meal feeling deeply satisfied and refreshed. I wouldn’t go back to feeling heavy, stuffed, numb and miserable for anything!
3. Eating reasonably meant I needed to build a new relationship with food and my body. Peace with food is not about muscling through by sheer will power. I needed an authentic change from the inside out.
ONE MORE REALITY CHECK: WE CAN’T HAVE BOTH: No one can deeply enjoy their life while living in a love/hate relationship with food or body. Our human capacity simply does not allow room for both. A rich life demands your whole heart. And so does an addiction*.
The good news is that you can, I can, anyone can live peacefully with food & body. Both are our friends. Your body is your constant companion and food keeps it running so you can go live your amazing life.
With encouraging support, solid science, life-giving thoughts and time, you can have the comfortable and stable weight you’ve dreamed of.
*There are different schools of thought about whether we can be addicted to food, technically speaking. Food is a different substance from drugs and alcohol. Never the less, a dysfunctional relationship with food (and body) steals life-energy from us as surely as any chemical addiction does.