Problem is, there are serious unintended consequences with this line of thinking.
Putting our true selves “on hold” inadvertently sets us up to stay stuck where we are. It creates such a vacuum, a soul hunger, that it forces us to fill it with lesser and more convenient substitutes.
The very thing we do not want to do (turn to food) becomes the very thing we feel compelled to do.
And doesn’t this make sense? If we’re not stepping into the fullest version of the life we’re made for – no wonder we want to go eat cookies!
This is a fundamental piece of the liberated eating journey. We dare to begin to step out, and as life becomes more satisfying, late night eating and drive-thrus lose much of their pull.
Be you now.
Not in some distant thinner future.
When we start believing we deserve to LIVE RIGHT NOW we open the door to creating, connecting, and cultivating the interesting life we want. We won’t need to sit on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s nearly as often.
In fact – this is another irony of this amazing path we’ve chosen – when we start living from our true core the other stuff (like eating less) naturally begins to fall into place. This begs the question…
Are you playing it safe?
What do you imagine you would be doing differently if you were at your goal weight right now? Looking people in the eye more often, enjoying dance lessons or a writer’s group, walking with a confident pep in your step, wearing clothes you enjoy?
If so, you need to know two things:
- You will never deserve those things more than you do right now.
- You will not be a different person when you weigh less.
As a coach I get to be around people all the time who have reached goals – and yes, it feels very good indeed. AND, I hear quite often, “You know, I thought when I got here I would feel more different on the inside. I’m still me.” As we explore this further there is often a poignant discovery:
You were worthy all along…
worthy of living big, worthy of truly loving yourself and your one amazing life
just as you are.