“Sometimes we have to start telling a different kind of story before a different kind of future can unfold.”
That sums up our journey of liberated eating beautifully.
We are telling – living – a new and very different kind of story from the one we were telling ourselves during our old miserable dieting days.
We who have struggled with food, weight and body for far too long want a different future. Desperately. The old story of restrictive rule-following did not take us to the future it promised.
Not even close.
The future we want requires a story of hope and help that actually works – for the long haul. We’ve gotta have an answer that’s big enough, strong enough & flexible enough for real life.
Nothing else will do.
The good news is there is a different kind of story – a trustworthy one. It’s a life-sized solution that’s about so much more than just losing weight. It’s built on science and wisdom instead of empty diet industry promises.
It’s about living peacefully with food through weekdays and weekends, on vacation and at home, at birthday parties and restaurants – and even when we’re stressed.
Here’s a recent example of how this different kind of story played out in my real life…
Bob and I went to Tasty’s Fresh Burgers & Fries after a fine day of kayaking; we were hungry and happy from a day spent outdoors. We both ordered a cheese burger with the works, hold the onions, and split an order of tater tots.
MY OLD DIETING STORY would’ve sounded something like this in my head:
“I should NOT be eating this fattening food!!! [it’s sooooo heavenly delicious…I can’t resist] I’m being so bad! [maybe I exercised enough today to balance things out] But… if I’m gonna be bad I might as well go ahead and blow it big. I’ll start again tomorrow […or maybe Monday].” Then I would eat it all, quickly, completely missing much of the goodness, paying no attention to what my body was telling me, and leave feeling stuffed and guilty and defeated. Again.
MY INTUITIVE, MINDFUL STORY can now play out like this:
“This looks delicious and I’m so grateful for it! I want to be sure to show up and slow down so I can enjoy each satisfying bite…I wanna be connected to all the goodness in this meal and moment. That’s a gift I can give myself.” No guilt. No “shoulds” or “should nots”. No drive to overeat compulsively or shamefully or quickly. Because of this freedom I can stop eating when I’m not hungry anymore. I can easily leave food behind and walk out feeling very satisfied indeed.
Developing this kind of food-peace is a journey* anyone can take.
Our old diet story, driven by deprivation and hyper-control, made food an emotionally charged substance and drove us into all-or-nothing behaviors and beliefs.
It was frenzied and small and crazy-making.
The story of liberated eating, so different from dieting, allows us to choose from an authentic place, eat from a connected place, and live from a peaceful place – which works together to allow a different kind of future to unfold…the one we’ve wanted all along.
So, yes Friend, no matter how crazy you may feel right now, your food-story can indeed have a happy ending.
*to learn more about this journey check out my book, The Liberated Eater, or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.