It’s so simple – and it makes so much sense. Why, then, has knowledge about eating right and exercising not changed our weight – as individuals or as a nation?
There are two huge gaps in this advice. Ignoring these two important elements is why 99% of us eventually regain the weight we’ve worked so hard to lose. These two missing pieces are why food has become an emotionally charged subject – complete with shame, confusion and despair (not to mention a multi-billion-dollar weight loss industry getting profitably fatter and fatter by the day).
Certainly there are many “weight loss plans”. You can go with the latest Dr. Oz pick, or cleanse, or Adkin’s, or Nutri-system, or No White Stuff Diet …the list goes on and on. Any of these may move the needle on the scale for a time. Weight will stay lost only as long as you can stay on the wagon because…
We cannot maintain our weight loss without: RECOVERY & DISCOVERY.
RECOVERY – doing the work of healing your food addictions, your attachment to food that makes you act and feel crazy around it.
Until we recover from restriction and compulsion (caused by dieting and other factors) we will constantly be trying to live with the brakes on around food. This is exhausting and impossible to maintain.
BIG TRUTH #1: Until you recover from your damaged relationship with food it won’t matter how thin you become or how carefully you eat –
You will not be at PEACE around food.
Since food is a regular part of our daily lives, we’ll continue to suffer greatly if we don’t come to live peacefully and reasonably with it.
DISCOVERY – finding the lifestyle that FITS YOU – that comfort zone between the foods you enjoy and the health/weight/fitness you want.
Until you discover what fits you – your preferences, your schedule, your life – you will not be able to comply long-term. And that’s the goal, right? A permanent solution – so you can get on with your life, no longer side-tracked by food and body preoccupation.
BIG TRUTH #2: Until you find a lifestyle that fits you, your food-life will be difficult.
You won’t be able to relax into the peaceful partnership that’s meant to exist between you and your body.
Discovering your personal lifestyle takes a willingness to experiment. It requires curiosity, honesty, time and support. This journey is well worth the effort because, not only will it last, but it will bring a deeper love, appreciation and understanding of yourself. This – in the end – turns out to be a much greater treasure than just “getting skinny”.
BIG SURPRISE: When I coach with people who’ve reached their weight goal without these two pieces in place, they’re unhappy and surprised at their disappointment. They thought being thin was going to be the Holy Grail but their food-life is still a source of stress. Maintaining and micro-managing their food and exercise is as big a burden for them now as losing weight ever was.
Why? Because their relationship with food and their body is still out of balance, and they’re trying to operate within a lifestyle that isn’t a good fit for them.
GOOD NEWS: With a little coaching anyone can figure it out. There is always a way through.
BIG TRUTH #3:
You were born “eating right & exercising”
We were born living well with our food and our little adorable bodies. As babies we ate, slept and played joyfully and naturally from the inside out – and we can live this way again.
Peaceful, healthy self-care is not only possible for you – it’s the way your mind and body want to operate. It’s already in your DNA.
Our challenge is to silence the incessant noise, stop living by someone else’s rules and reconnect with the intuitive parts of ourselves…those places dieting has smothered somewhere along the way.
So, how do we put these two missing pieces in place? We stop dieting and start learning how to partner with our bodies again. As you recover your intuitive self and as you discover the lifestyle that fits you best, the strangest thing will happen…
You will begin to “eat right and exercise” naturally.
*A WORD ABOUT FOOD CHOICES: People who take the path of liberated eating end up finding their own best way of eating. Some reach their weight goal simply by eating mindfully. Some gravitate toward a certain eating style like Mediterranean, Paleo, etc. Through the process of recovery and discovery they find a menu they enjoy.
If you’d like help getting started on this path, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. It would be a privilege to help you find the food-life you’ve been wanting.