The top New Year’s Resolution of recent decades is “to lose weight”. This was certainly my solemn promise to myself every year from 1970 to the new millennium. But the results never lasted and there’s one simple, but profound reason why…
Real change happens from the inside out.
Dieting caused us to focus on the wrong things; we poured our valiant efforts into changing our outside behaviors rather than changing our inner beliefs.
WE WERE GIVEN THE WRONG ANSWER: Restrict your food intake and increase your exercise.
It seems so clear, right? But in reality we haven’t been able to stick to this formula because it never got to the root of the issue.
Here’s what dieting never taught us: Our actions begin between our ears – not on our plate. Until we change how we think, we will not be able to permanently change how we eat.
WE DO HAVE A REAL SOLUTION: A universal truth…
Our thoughts lead to our feelings.
Our feelings lead to our behaviors.
Our behaviors lead to the results we want,
or the consequences we don’t want.
What we think determines how we eat.
- If I think food is the only way I can sooth myself when I feel anxious, I’ll feel helpless to do otherwise.
- If I think food is fattening and dangerous, I’ll feel uneasy around it – which leads to reacting irrationally rather than responding intuitively.
- If I believe I should eat “perfectly” I will feel ashamed when I don’t, which leads to all sorts of unhealthy behaviors and consequences.
- If I believe my body is only worthy of respect at a lighter weight, then I will have a very hard time valuing it enough to take kind care of it – which is what it takes to stay at a lighter weight.
And if you feel weak, defeated and hopeless after years of “failed” diet attempts, you will struggle to believe you’re a strong and capable person, even though you are!
Reminder: You’ve never failed a diet. Dieting has failed you.
BOTTOM LINE: If you want permanent results in 2017, please don’t plan another diet for this January. Instead, put your good effort into changing how you think about your body, yourself and the good gift of food…the rest will take care of itself.
If you aren’t sure where to start, click here and read this, then call me. I would love to help you get what you want this year, and keep it for the rest of your amazing life!